(A letter I will never send, to a mother who would never read it anyway)
Non-fiction / Memoir
Date Published: 06-01-2023
None of us were raised by perfect mothers, nor can we ourselves be perfect parents. But some mothers sure do know how to ruin a life, well, almost. I say almost because, although my mother's parenting left severe damage in its path and, regrettably, and inevitably, shaped some of the decisions I made, I am grateful to have realized the issues I was facing. So, I now have the opportunity to properly address those issues, to minimize their impact on my life.
This book holds the words I would express to my mother, if I thought she cared to acknowledge my feelings at all.
Many others have been “raised” by narcissistic mothers and have been deeply affected. But it is still possible to live happy lives, free of Mom’s burden. Writing has helped me immensely in this regard.
Interview with Eva Tillman
What is your schedule like when you’re writing a book?
This was my first book and it was absolutely crazy in the beginning. I changed my schedule so many times. At first, I didn’t really have a schedule. I wrote whenever ideas “came to me”. Eventually, I decided on writing one hour a day. And if I thought of ideas throughout the day, I would jot done a quick note.
Did you ever consider writing under a pseudonym?
Eva Tillman actually is a pseudonym. Although my mother gravely mistreated me, I would not show a lack of respect by revealing who I am and, thereby, revealing who she is.
Have you ever gotten reader’s block?
Every single day. But I sit there and think until I get past it.
Does your family support your career as a writer?
The only person who knows I am a writer is my husband and he supports me wholeheartedly. He is super excited for me. He truly does adore me, I'm grateful for him.
How many hours a day do you write?
I just finished my first book and started writing my second book. So I am actually taking it easy and just writing a few ideas for less than an hour a day until I have the framework of the book.
If you could invite any three people for dinner, whom would you invite?
Britney Spears, Steph Curry, Jimmy Kimmel
Would you share something about yourself that your readers don’t know (yet)?
Now that I have written this book, I have absolutely no feelings for my mother. No love. No hatred. Nothing.
Do you try more to be original or to deliver to readers what they want?
Writing is freedom. I think about my readers only when I am almost completely done and ready to make my final edits. I prefer to preserve the originality to the extent possible.
How do you celebrate when you finish your book?
I don’t think about the book for several days. It is so refreshing.
If you could be mentored by a famous author, who would it be?
William Shakespeare
About the Author
Eva Tillman published her first work in 2023. However, she has enjoyed writing since she was a teenager.
She lived in several regions of the United States before she finally settled in the West with its palm trees and almost constant sunshine. She loves to read, eat, and help others feel good about themselves.
Many people, including Eva, have faced trauma of different types. Unfortunately, the hands of time cannot be turned back. But it is possible to live happy and successful lives, contentedly coping with the slowly dissipating effects of the trauma.
In her most personal work, "Dear Mom", Eva does her best to express herself as she would if she were writing to Mother herself. Perhaps one day Eva will deliver the book to its rightful recipient. For now, she enjoys the liberation of having poured out her true feelings.
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2 comments:
Sounds like a good memoir. The cover art looks great.
The book sounds very interesting. Thanks!
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